When physically apart, we can feel the separation — we pine for the loved one who is far away. At the spiritual level, however, physicalities do not matter. At this level, you do not have to strive to become One, for you are One. The urge to become One at the physical level alone is a great source of unhappiness.
A young man once asked me, ‘Is it possible to be happy in this competitive world? Can one really build a happy life on a foundation of distrust?’ An Indian maxim goes like this, ‘However hard you search in the mouth of a crow, you will not find any teeth there.’ The Bible says, ‘The Kingdom of heaven is within.’ The Gita says, ‘Happiness is within.’ But we search for happiness not within but outside. We get lost in the details and forget the essence…that lies within.
We are unhappy in life because we are victims of our expectations. Have expectations, but let not your happiness depend on them. Operate from love, not expectations. Love provides caring energy. This energy will make you effective and happy.
There was a Zen master. He was frail but had a powerful presence. He could push huge boulders effortlessly.
Someone asked him, ‘What is the secret of your strength?’ The Zen master replied, ‘Before pushing a boulder, I communicate with it, request its permission and support in my effort. And then the boulder gets moved miraculously.…’ Power comes from the mystery of love, not from our expectation of how others should behave.
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